I did not cry. No tears of joy, jumping up and down and hugging of friends and family.
So how did I know it was "The One"?
I just knew. It took me an overnight of lost sleep and another round of trying on dresses to be really sure, but after all was said and done I knew. (Admission - there was another round of doubt after the dress came home with me, but that was just nerves in disguise. Totally normal.)
My dress! ---->
(Priscilla of Boston website)
I went shopping by myself. I like shopping by myself. No pressure. (I did drag in my friends at the very end of the day, for a second set of eyes and to add a little fun to the process.)
I went to one store. I did this over the course of two visits, probably could have done it in one if it weren't such a big decision.
I tried on ten dresses. Four the first day. My dress was the third I tried on.
I got opinions from the consultants at the store. (Priscilla of Boston, by the way, brand new in Raleigh and highly recommend. They were so much fun to work with and always made me feel like a special bride).
They asked me questions about my vision. I explained that I wanted elegant, sophisticated a little romantic, a little European. We used these keywords as questions to "test" the dress.
"Do you feel elegant, sophisticated... etc?" Sounds silly, but it was a helpful double check.
We added fashion forward after I tried on a very traditional cinderella-y dress that made me cringe. Sometimes things are better on paper than they are on your body.
<--- Me, in "The Dress" just minutes before the ceremony. Looking incredibly nervous!
In the end, there were a couple that I liked, but only one that was really me. It was the one I felt most comfortable in. Not in the comfort sense, but in the dress feels like a natural extension of me. Me, but better. Me, getting married.
So, that's what it came down to. In the end, I loved my dress and know that I made the right decision.
My advice for any brides who may just be starting this process -
- Bookmark images in magazines and on-line, but do not get overly hung up on a particular style.
- Try on all kinds of styles when you first start looking. You will figure out right away what does not work and what you like most.
- Be completely open. You may be surprised but what type of dress you prefer.
- Trust your instinct. You may not be overwhelmed with emotion and cry tears of joy, but you may just feel content, like yourself, only better.
- Have fun! It is an experience like no other.
- Start early if you can. I was in a serious time crunch and luckily had a wonderful new store to work with, but this is probably not typical. Ordering the dress and alterations will take more time than you think.
- Oh, and keep the fiance in mind as well. You'll want him to like the dress too!
For any already marrieds, I'd love to hear your stories...
How did you find your dress? How did you know that it was "The One"?
Any other advice that you would add?